Looking to God for every form of validation;
self worth, value, acceptance, love, encouragement.
Redefining self worth based on Biblical
principals, rooted in practical applications such as; small actions, small
choices, small incremental advances but done consistently! Over time as you
train your mind & your emotions to NOT REACT, but rather to recreate new
realities that come into alignment with His word, thus, everything begins to
change! The attitude & outlook effects or choices & decisions. Our
decisions & actions affect our outcome! When all of these variables are
filtered through His will for your life, you will be under His Divine
Let's redefine the term, "Self
defeating" & discover the common misnomer associated with accepting
total responsibility for these thoughts, behaviors and actions. Yes, we are
partly responsible for them, in accepting them, in acting out upon them, in
resigning to them BUT we need to recognize who the Author of wrong thinking
truly is. Satan has the ability to speak to us in our own voice internally,
mimicking us; in an attempt to gain access to the subconscious. He is the voice
that speaks bad, negative, defeating words to your inner self. When you listen
to this voice, especially when you are down or have failed at something, you
secretly agree with the words, the put-downs or the insults. He tends to mock,
he makes you think & fear that people don’t like you, that you aren’t good
enough, strong enough, capable enough! This voice within is certainly not God,
and it is certainly not You, until of course you begin adopting this way of
thinking. This way of thinking is adopted whenever you give into those
"suggestions" placed by the enemy.
if any of you do err from the truth, and one convert him;
him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall
save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins.
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your
mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their
needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
If God tells us in
the Bible how to conduct ourselves toward others, it is safe to also conclude
that His spirit would also never inflict such demoralizing attacks on us.
There is a way to recognize the difference
between inner conflict which arises from the conscience verses inner battery
caused by satan's attempts to keep us in a downward spiral of bad feelings,
choices & results! Once you are aware that this is a serious reality, you
will begin to pay closer attention the dialogue that transpires between your
ears! When something begins to make you feel bad, low and ugly...(ask God to
reveal the truth to you)!
God does not belittle us, god does not speak
words of condemnation to you inwardly!) Yes, the word of God, the Bible clearly
explains condemning lifestyles and beliefs, but God does not talk down to us,
He does not speak demoralizing words. He is the God of Mercy and the God of
God’s way of correcting offers us a way to
feel good about our decision. Whenever the Holy Spirit (pricks our conscience)
the Overwhelming truth and KEY FACT, you need to remember, is that you will
always without question be offered an encouragement to amend your wrongful actions.
You will always be met with some sort of empathy for someone with whom you have
dealt wrongly. You will get the sensation that your action to make good or make
better is a good thing & that even though you cannot undo what you did, you
can correct it from happening again.
Whenever you are being spoken to in ERROR,
you will always be served some sort of twisted justification. The entire focus
will be on how bad you feel, how unfair it is & how easy it is to just
accept the defeat! The voice of this abusive spirit can and will try to
convince you that you are deserving of the outcome & that it is all your
fault. No matter what the conflict is, it always seems to hinge upon struggles
that you have had for years, this is because he knows where you are weakest and
he kicks you when you are down!
Admonition, correction, praise and
We must also be careful, cautious if you
will, where and how we accept any form of criticism.
I heard a sermon by J Staley which certainly
rings true...there are people who spend their time trying to get into your
head, to undermine you and thwart you. (they are directly under the influence
of the demonic) there are only two sources that supply us with motivation, that
of the heavenlies and that of the underworld.
this...ITS EXTREMELY EYE OPENING!
Staley- The Great Deception (Recognizing the Voice of the Enemy)
Come to me, all who
labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and
learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for
your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
Why, even the hairs of
your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.
For I know the plans I
have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for
evil, to give you a future and a hope.
The Lord your
God is in your midst, a mighty one who will save; he will rejoice over you with
gladness; he will quiet you by his love; he will exult over you with loud
“Truly, truly, I say
to you, he who does not enter the sheepfold by the door but climbs in by
another way, that man is a thief and a robber. But he who enters by the door is
the shepherd of the sheep. To him the gatekeeper opens. The sheep hear his
voice, and he calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. When he has
brought out all his own, he goes before them, and the sheep follow him, for
they know his voice. A stranger they will not follow, but they will flee from
him, for they do not know the voice of strangers.”